I have an unintentional interest in Christian singles, purely because I myself am single, and because there is no such ministry at my local church. However, unlike some single people, I choose to be single, partly because of my stubborn and cynical nature, but I know true love when I see it. True love is not the whimsical puppy-love kind, where you hug and kiss all day – and you only snap out of the fairy-tale marriage, until your first argument about real issues. Like I said, I am cynical in nature, but at least I’m honest.
Ultimately, I seek a Christ-centred relationship with a real sense of purpose in life with a significant other. So far, the LORD God fills that empty gap, where I feel loved, but I am also learning how to love others, as I would love myself (Mark 12:30-31).
As a Christian single, there’s something special when you devote some free time to dwell in the LORD’s presence. Often, we long to satisfy the flesh and seek to fill our emotions of the things we do not have in life, and then we struggle to remember to give thanks for the blessings that we have today. Of all the humanly qualities that exist on the dating circuit today when seeking a significant other, I admire the quality of Christian faith in an individual. Not only is observing faith in others challenging, but I personally believe it reveals the true nature of one’s adoration for the LORD God. To me, I find faith our silent witness of our hearts proclamation for our love for the LORD, but how we deal with life around us each day.
How does this person cope in times of trial and temptation? How do they communicate with the LORD on a daily basis? How mature is this person in their faith in the LORD? For me, I really want to know how she copes with the pressures of life, and how she responds to faith-based situations and Christian love and service.
Faith is also a sustaining quality in that it shows on a person’s character and attitude towards and living out life.
I find faith an attractive attribute when defining a Christian, particularly a Christian single. Often people dress to impress. They will invest time and money to look physically attractive, but the reality is – everybody ages. People grow old, and no matter how much sweat you break at the gym, and apply the cosmetics and fashion – appearances change. Not only due to natural ageing, but most people are never happy with their skin anyway.
Love conquers all.
Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. -1 John 4:18 (NLT)
Taking a leaf from a challenging article on single Christians, the author headers “Single men trust God by risking rejection and single women trust God by waiting on him.”1
Reflecting from experience, I have personally found that trusting in the LORD can result in untimely consequences with those who do not share, or have the patience to wait for God’s will.
The truth is – everybody has an agenda.
Some people desire a career, some people don’t. Some people desire to be married before 30 – for American’s that figure is typically lower. Some people are content with life and find peace and joy in the LORD. Some people long for constant attention 24/7 and they simply need to feel loved – physically, emotionally and mentally.
Whatever the case one’s agenda may hold, Christian singles are silent witnesses in a Western society of consumerism. Trusting in the LORD is hard for any Christian single, whether you are a single Christian girl waiting patiently for the LORD to provide a suitable companion that will one day lead to a hand in marriage. Or for the single Christian guy, who may need to experience a few rejections in life, but hey, it will certainly strengthen your faith, and lead you to be the Christian leader of a Christian family.
I firmly believe that ‘it is not good for man to be alone’ (Genesis 2:18), but while we Christian singles are waiting and seeking – there is still much work to do in God’s Kingdom. We still have people to love and share of the Good News, and we still need to love ourselves in the process – and remain steadfast in our faith in the LORD. Let us press on with our silent witness for God’s glory!
- http://www.crossway.org/blog/2012/06/singles-in-the-local-church/ [↩]