I finally found the time to watch P.S. I Love You, which I recorded on Sky+HD last week. The comedy romantic film features Hilary Swank and Gerard Butler. I admit, I found the film dry and the story seemed to drag around the life and journey of the character Holly, but I started to ponder if these chick-flick movies are something that people actually expect in real-life. This fantasy expectation of meeting a Prince Charming in a knight and shining whatever, or a girl of his dreams, but as you know it is never the picturesque love story for many of us. Maybe I speak because like many others, we have had our share of disappointments in life. I am curious to know if people still date the good old-fashioned way of traditional dating and courting, unless I have been watching too many chick-flick movies myself! Are we consumed by instant solutions like online dating, where you are essentially judging a book by its cover so to speak – before looking to the true character and traits of the individual? Some also believe they can sustain a relationship through other forms of communication, and solely rely on the likes of Facebook to building a relationship, as opposed to investing the quality time and money into seeing the face of the other, or picking up the trusty pen and allow your heart to wonder and express on a blank page. Even a simple telephone call can go a long way and brighten someone’s day – and I believe it to be a whole lot cheaper than buying your morning coffee from Starbucks, especially when a double chocolate chip cookie gazes before your eyes. Obviously, in a long-distant relationship, face-to-face communication is not always possible, but Skype phone calls are cheap and even video conferencing is fun. At least, you get to see each other’s face and share away to your heart’s content.

Another thing I wish to observe from watching P.S. I Love You is actually the words of the film title. Throughout the film, Holly is reminded by the physical loss of Gerry, but is constantly reminded of his incredible passion and love for her through the letters that is sent out to her periodically, as he shares of the wonderful joys and moments spent together, and remembering the good old times. To me, the collection of those memories is worth watching, and Holly finally has a sense of peace in the end to move forward with her life. To me, I could appreciate the value of the infamous words ‘I Love You.’ In ways, it is perhaps overused in casual conversation to loving this and loving that, but what does it really mean to love. The true value and meaning of the word love is unconditional. Ultimately, you would die for the other person, because you love them this much. Just like the way one expresses their love through a traditional marriage vow ‘until death do us part.’ To me, love is not the expectation of finding the perfect person, but it is the sustaining love that holds you both together during the times and trials of everyday life.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. -John 3:16 (NIV)

What does the word love mean to you, and how do you express love to others?

~Richard