How does one go about finding the intimacy to treasure? To an extent, the world lacks the human intimacy in the appreciative value of one another. Nowadays, we go about doing our everyday business among people, and yet we find ourselves lonely or feeling isolated.

If I choose to sweat it out at the local gym, I see already-fit people tuning into their iPods as they bulge up their biceps and run like hamsters on wheels, whilst counting the calories burned like treasured Steam achievements.

If I wonder about in Glasgow and people-watch from Starbucks, I see people pre-occupied by the anti-social worlds that we hook ourselves to the digital avatars spawning ‘friends’ and complete strangers on the likes of Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Flickr, Pinterest, Tumblr and the usual ream of blogging platforms.

For me, I find a varying degree of human intimacy at my local church, and yet, I find it on occasions to be a strangely lonely experience. The only difference with my local church compared with my daily outings is the like-mindedness of brothers and sisters in Christ. I also have a healthy network of close Christian friends, but most, if not all are in the mature-age bracket. I don’t have a secure network of Christian friends of my own age, particular brothers and sisters in Christ to grow up with, and it doesn’t help when most modern topics of interest and social activity don’t fully appeal to me.

I am hoping (and praying) I am not due an emotional breakdown, or maybe it’s because life has taken a few sharp turns in life lately that I feel like I’ve encountered some regrets of the past. Knowing deep down, I know they are no regrets, at least from a relationship perspective. Things happen all the time, and I simply pin it down to timing. Time is needed for a seed to take root in the soils, and after much tendering care and water and sunlight – that seed will soon flourish like the Fruits of the Spirit.

But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! -Galatians 5:22-23 (NLT)

The reason I desire a female friend of a wife material is mainly my ultimate desire to get married and raise a family of my own. I guess it’s the biblical companionship of one another through human intimacy which appeals to me, but I’m also aware that marriage through Christ brings a whole new level of intimacy – and really, it’s that Trinitarian level of intimacy I desire. God’s ordination of biblical marriage is the discipline to be selfless in Christian love to your spouse in active engagement throughout marriage, from the bliss and naivety of a married couple – to serving each other in humility and meekness.

Why worry? The LORD God will provide in His perfect timing and justified will. May His will be done.


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